Toddler Screen Time

[Whoo boy, first toddler eating and now toddler screen time?  Since when did I become such a not-afraid-of-controversy blogger?  (I didn’t; I’m still deathly afraid.  This just happens to be important to me.)]A couple of months ago, Janssen posted about their screen rules and because I love her and her parenting style (at least the aspects with which I’m familiar; I take no responsibility if she secretly feeds them bonbons for dinner and hands them knives as toys), I’m blatantly copying her with how things generally go over here.  We definitely don’t handle things perfectly and there are for sure some things we do that I’d like to live without (ahem, Micky Mouse Clubhouse) but those are pretty limited and pick your battles, yada yada.I grew up in a house where we were really not allowed much TV (excepting terrific 90s sitcoms, oh just you wait…details below) and we never had any sort of video game system.  As in, I’ve still only played video games maybe 5 times in my life.  If that.  (Also known as: I was regularly trashed by the 8-year-old I babysat. He gave up asking to play after a few tries.)  I was always just much more into reading my Nancy Drew books and I’m just getting cooler by the minute, now aren’t I?
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It’s also usually actually easier for me to have very little screen time.  Because I’m lazy, it’s easier for me to not have it as an option than to constantly be deciding whether to say yes or no.  I’ve also found that the more screen time N is allowed, the more he wants.  So it’s generally simpler to just have a policy of very little, and at very specific times/amounts.

So without further ado, here are our personal toddler screen time guidelines (I call them that because they’re definitely not set in stone, but this is generally how we do things with N for right now – it may totally change with K with different personalities/priorities/numbers of kids/what is it with me and insanely long parentheticals??):

1. Phone/iPod: This will probably shock some of you off your chairs, but I still use T9 (remember that?) to send text messages on my old flip phone.  That’s right, I don’t have a smartphone.  I’ve just never felt it entirely necessary and haven’t (so far…we’ll see) been willing to spend $50+ a month to have one.  I do have an iPod touch that I love because then I can check my email or read on my kindle app while I nurse the baby or use Instagram (terrible quality pictures from the iPod, I know, don’t hate me).  The kids use this approximately never.

2. iPad: This is definitely where N gets most of his screentime, which I like, because then it’s not on a big screen for K to see, as well.  The biggest thing is a little youtube clip, almost always of Mickey Mouse Clubhouse (whoever introduced him to it, well, there is a special feeling I have for you and it mostly involves making you listen to the Hot Dog song on repeat for the rest of your life) in the mornings.  When he was potty training months ago, I figured out that was his best “reward currency.”  He didn’t care at all about treats, liked stickers, but LOVED getting to watch a little Mickey clip (probably because he was so TV deprived).  While potty training for #1 was a cinch, #2 took another couple of weeks, so this was really helpful, so he got in the habit of getting a video for going #2 in the potty.  We weaned him off it for a while, but then when we returned from a trip, he somehow remembered, and has still wanted it.  It hasn’t been worth the hassle to me of cutting him off yet, but I will eventually.  Anyway, this usually amounts to anywhere from 6-20 minutes most mornings.

He will also sometimes play memory on there or do a book reading app, but this happens for probably 15 minutes once every week or two.  He will also sometimes get it to do scripture coloring or scripture stickers during Sacrament meeting at church, so maybe 20-30 minutes on Sunday.

When in the car, he never gets it unless on a road trip, and it’s rare then.  He’s generally much more interested in pointing out every.single.thing. out the window, anyway, and doesn’t remember it, anyway.  When we were on our long road trip along the East coast earlier this summer, I honestly can’t remember if he used it at all.  This is obviously something that varies a lot by child (and I would’ve been totally fine letting him have it then), but he was much more interested in reading his books than using the iPad.  N’s always had a crazy long attention span for books (at K’s age he would easily sit for 30 minutes reading with me, and she does…not do that) , but I don’t see that quite as much in K (yet), so perhaps she’ll be more interested in having the iPad for those occasions when the time comes.

3. TV/Movies: Our TV consumption is pretty much non-existant.  As in, I don’t remember the last time we watched something actually coming from the TV and not a DVD/VHS.  We’re not big movie watchers here – in fact, we cancelled our Netflix several months ago because we finally realized we were MAYBE watching one movie a month, and that was sometimes on a good month.  It just takes us forever to get through them.  We’re much more likely to read a book together or watch a “Michelle movie,” as N calls them.

And here is where I confess my giant nerdiness.  I totally love Full House.  Still.  So Dan got me all the seasons and we’ve been working our way through them.  Twenty two minutes of lighthearted cheesiness is just our speed for evening media.  We’ll maybe watch one episode as a family (usually after K is in bed) twice a week or so.

Other than that, we will very occasionally watch some sort of animated VHS together (we have about 40).  N loves Cars, and we’ve tried The Jungle Book and a couple others, but N’s attention span is really only about 30 minutes for these, and we only do it about once every other month.

4. Computer: We do weekly family video chat dates with Dan’s whole family, and we’ll occasionally Facetime with my mom during the day if it’s been a whole 72 hours since she’s seen the kids.

And that’s about it!  So to recap, maybe an animated clip in the morning (10ish minutes), perhaps some short educational iPad game at some point during the day (10ish minutes), possibly some Full House in the evening as a family (22 minutes, sadly I know this).  On Sundays, we don’t have the above, but we do have video chat and Sacrament meeting churchy apps.  Blue moon usage includes long road trips (iPad) and VHS movies at home.

Me, on the other hand.  I…spend a lot of time online.  Like, I’m usually too embarrassed to answer those surveys that ask how many hours you spend online each day.  Perhaps I should look into that.

What are your guidelines?

5 Responses

  • I struggle so much with TV time because our apartment is so small and we just don't get out much! I have a super needy toddler and sometimes I can't take care of my 6 month old with out a little TV (and the hotdog song? I'm glad we've moved on to Sofia the First) I feel super guilty (I wrote a post a while ago, I'm not just saying it now to make myself feel better, ha!) but I know when we go on vacation or spend time at someone else's house, my daughter doesn't even think about TV so hopefully when Axel is a little bit older and they can play, we wont need TV time at all. 🙂

  • I was SO good when my first was a baby. He got no screen time EVER. Now my kids get…a lot more than that. It varies by day but during the summer they spent a lot of time parked in front of the idiot box while I worked. Neither of them have taken naps for over a year and I just got to the point where I was like LEAVE ME ALONE FOR AN HOUR OR TWO. HERE, WATCH A MOVIE I DON'T EVEN CARE ANYMORE. I have serious guilt over it but at this point the tv is my sanity saver.

  • So we don't have a TV either, and while we do occasionally watch a movie here or there, we are avid West Wing fans. We've watched all 7 seasons together, and are starting over at Season 1 (we're about half way through). If that's not nerdy, I don't know what is.

  • I would love to know what the apps are you use during Sacrament meeting. I have heretofore had a very STRICT no electronics in Sacrament Meeting policy, but perhaps if there was an appropriate app I might be swayed. Or maybe I just want him to play righteous apps all the time…We usually do a clip in the morning too, lately it has been Mighty Machines off the instant Netflix (which I use a lot, but we are super bad about the mailing in movies bit) which is the only way I can get out the door without everything going super chaotic. Easton wakes up in the morning with cabin fever and I cannot get him going outside fast enough for his liking so he starts climbing the walls!

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